2020: Parents Help Your Children With Their Career

Parents who call Career Counseling Connecticut increasingly tell me that they face a question where they do not have a clear answer:

Should we help our adult children with their career challenges? The answer is simple: “yes”.

My generation – 50 and over – was profoundly affected by scores of movies, TV shows, and general media warnings against the domineering parent.  As such, the most common refrain I hear from parents: “It is his (or her) life. I don’t want to interfere.  It will cause a strain in our relationship.”

But some areas of life – marriage/parenthood, health, and career –  are so significant to overall life happiness that unless you think your parental duties end when your children leave the house you should help if possible.

The how you can/should help is a much bigger, more nuanced topic. But the “why” is easily answered

The why you should help can be partially explained in broad strokes.

  1. Self-esteem is highly connected to career.  Twentysomethings who have floundering careers start to feel bad about themselves.
  2. Lack of career path has become the dominant reason why young adults do not start families.  This is still a gender tilted issue but, suffice to say, men push off marriage – and fatherhood – until they feel settled into a career.
  3. The work world is dramatically different than back in our day.  “He’ll figure it out” used to be translated into “someone will hire him.”.  That’s not the case anymore.
  4. It gets harder as time passes.  Too many twentysomethings started post college unemployment with the thought that they’ll get a job after the summer.  The summer then becomes a year.  After a year or two, a whole host of factors start making it more difficult to gain career traction.  If they have a job but know it is not a long term fit, then they need to move on sooner than later.  Otherwise, they will be branding themselves in a career that doesn’t suit them.
  5. Assuming you can figure out the how – the default being sending them to us – you will build your relationship in a healthy way – the wise mentor.

Of course, the easiest way to help without causing conflict is to get an expert to help your child.

Contact us.  860 510-0410 or e-mail. 

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