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AI: What are parents to do?

Your Child’s AI Future: A Parent’s Guide

If you’re a parent of a high school or college-age student right now, you’re facing something unprecedented: preparing your child for a world being fundamentally reshaped by artificial intelligence in real-time.

As I recently had discussions with savvy parents from East Lyme who are in the tech space, they know… really know what’s happening.

And, it’s frightening, even to an optimist like me.

But most parents know about AI as background noise.

You’ve probably felt the ground shifting. Maybe your daughter came home talking about using ChatGPT for her homework and you weren’t sure whether to be impressed or concerned. Maybe your son mentioned that his dream career might not exist in ten years. Maybe you’ve read headlines about AI replacing jobs and felt a knot of anxiety about your child’s future prospects.

At The Learning Consultants, we’ve spent the past 25 years helping Connecticut families navigate educational and career transitions. But the conversations we’re having with parents today are unlike any we’ve had before. The questions are harder, the anxiety more palpable, and the stakes feel higher. Because this time, the disruption isn’t just about getting into the right college—it’s about preparing for a future none of us can fully predict.

The Questions Parents Are Really Asking

When parents sit down with us, the surface questions are familiar: “What should my child major in?” “Which schools should we target?” “How do we build a strong resume?”

But underneath, the real questions have changed:

“Will my child’s college degree still matter if AI can do what they’re training for?”

“Am I steering them toward a career that won’t exist by the time they graduate?”

“How do I protect my child’s future when I don’t understand the technology reshaping it?”

“Should I even encourage traditional four-year college anymore?”

These are the questions keeping parents up at night. And they deserve better answers than generic reassurances or panic-driven pivots.

What We’re Seeing on the Ground

Here’s what we’re observing from our work with hundreds of Connecticut families:

The anxiety is real—and it’s universal. Whether you’re in Greenwich or New Haven, whether your child attends private school or public, every parent is grappling with these questions. You’re not alone, and your concerns aren’t overblown.

Students are already living in an AI-integrated world. Your child’s relationship with AI is probably more sophisticated than you realize. They’re using it for research, writing assistance, coding help, and creative projects. The question isn’t whether they’ll use AI—it’s whether they’ll use it wisely and develop skills that complement rather than compete with it.

The traditional playbook is being rewritten. The path that worked for your generation (good grades → good college → stable career) isn’t broken, but it’s no longer sufficient. Students need additional capabilities that weren’t part of our education: adaptive thinking, technological fluency, and the ability to create value in ways machines cannot.

How We Help Parents Navigate This Transition

Our role has evolved significantly. We’re no longer just helping students get into college—we’re helping families think strategically about preparing for an AI-integrated future while maintaining the human elements that will always matter.

We translate the AI landscape into actionable guidance. Most parents don’t need to become AI experts (though some of you want to, and we can help with that too). You need to understand enough to make informed decisions about your child’s education and career direction. We bridge that gap, helping you distinguish signal from noise in the overwhelming flow of AI-related information.

We help you identify your child’s “AI-resistant” strengths. Not everything can or will be automated. We work with students to discover and develop their uniquely human capabilities—creativity, emotional intelligence, complex problem-solving, relationship-building, and ethical reasoning. These aren’t just nice-to-have soft skills anymore; they’re the core competitive advantages in an AI world.

We reframe the college and career conversation. Instead of “What should my child major in?”—a question that assumes static career paths—we help families ask better questions: “What kind of problems does my child love solving?” “Where do their natural strengths intersect with emerging opportunities?” “How can we build adaptive capacity rather than narrow expertise?”

We address your family’s specific situation. Generic advice about AI and careers is everywhere. What’s rare is guidance tailored to your particular child’s personality, learning style, family values, and circumstances. A strategy that works for an entrepreneurial extrovert won’t work for a methodical introvert, even if they have the same SAT scores.

The Skills That Will Matter

Through our research and direct work with students, we’ve identified several capabilities that consistently emerge as valuable regardless of how AI evolves:

Critical thinking and judgment. AI can generate options; humans must still evaluate them, understand context, and make wise decisions. Teaching your child to think critically—to question assumptions, spot flaws in reasoning, and weigh competing values—is more important than ever.

Communication and persuasion. The ability to explain complex ideas clearly, build consensus, and move people to action remains profoundly human. Whether your child becomes an engineer, entrepreneur, or educator, communication skills will differentiate them.

Adaptability and continuous learning. The half-life of skills is shrinking. Your child will likely need to reinvent themselves multiple times across their career. The capacity to learn new things quickly, tolerate ambiguity, and pivot when necessary matters more than any specific technical skill.

Ethical reasoning. As AI becomes more powerful, questions about how it should be used become more critical. Students who can navigate complex ethical terrain, consider diverse perspectives, and make values-based decisions will be sought after.

Relationship-building and collaboration. Despite all the technology, business and innovation still happen through relationships. The students who can build authentic connections, work effectively in teams, and navigate organizational dynamics will thrive.

What This Means for College Planning

We’re not telling families to abandon traditional college paths. Higher education still offers tremendous value—but the value proposition has shifted.

College matters less as a credential and more as a development environment. The question isn’t just “Will this degree get my child a job?” but “Will this experience develop them into someone who can navigate uncertainty, think independently, and create value in novel ways?”

This changes how we evaluate schools and programs. We look beyond rankings and brand names to consider:

The Role of Human Guidance in an AI Era

Here’s the paradox we keep encountering: as AI becomes more sophisticated at processing information and generating answers, human guidance becomes more valuable, not less.

Why? Because good counseling was never primarily about information transfer. It’s about understanding the whole person, recognizing patterns across hundreds of similar situations, providing accountability and encouragement, challenging limiting beliefs, and helping families navigate the emotional complexity of major life transitions.

I can spend an hour with your child and recognize dynamics that no algorithm would catch—the subtle mismatch between stated interests and genuine enthusiasm, the way family expectations might be creating internal conflict, the hidden strengths they’ve dismissed as unimportant. These insights come from decades of experience and genuine human connection, not data processing.

Moreover, the work we do with families is fundamentally relational. Transformation doesn’t happen through information alone—it happens through trust, reflection, honest conversation, and sustained support over time. That’s irreducibly human.

Moving from Anxiety to Strategy

The parents who navigate this transition most successfully share certain characteristics. They:

Stay curious rather than panicked. Yes, the changes are significant. But approaching them with genuine curiosity—asking questions, learning alongside their children, staying open to new possibilities—serves families better than anxiety-driven reactions.

Focus on principles, not predictions. Nobody knows exactly what the job market will look like in 2035. But we can build on timeless principles: help your child discover what they genuinely care about, develop strong thinking and communication skills, cultivate resilience and adaptability, and maintain ethical grounding.

Invest in guidance, not just credentials. The families who get the best outcomes are the ones who recognize that strategic guidance through these transitions has compounding value. The right counselor doesn’t just help your child get into college—they help them discover who they’re becoming and build the capabilities to thrive across multiple career iterations.

Trust their child’s generation. Your children are more technologically fluent than you are, and that’s okay. They’re also dealing with challenges you never faced. What they need from you isn’t mastery of AI—it’s wisdom, perspective, emotional support, and help thinking strategically about their future.

An Invitation

If you’re reading this and recognizing your own anxiety or confusion about preparing your child for an AI-integrated future, I want you to know: these are exactly the conversations we’re having with families every day. You’re not behind, you’re not failing, and you’re not alone.

The families we serve best are the ones willing to engage deeply with these questions, think strategically about their child’s development, and invest in the kind of personalized guidance that makes the difference between anxiety and confidence.

We’ve spent 25 years building expertise in educational and career counseling. We’ve spent the past year specifically studying how AI is reshaping career paths and retooling our approach to serve families navigating this transition. We understand both the regional landscape—the schools, opportunities, and advantages available in Connecticut and Westchester—and the broader technological forces reshaping the future of work.

Most importantly, we understand that beneath all the talk of algorithms and automation, you’re ultimately asking a timeless parental question: “How do I help my child build a meaningful, successful life?”

That’s the question we help you answer—with wisdom, experience, and genuine care for your family’s success.

Daryl Capuano is the founder and CEO of The Learning Consultants, Connecticut’s largest private education consultancy. He has guided hundreds of families through educational and career transitions since 2000. To discuss your family’s specific situation, contact The Learning Consultants at 860 510-0410 or dcapuano@learningconsultantsgroup.com