If you don’t change your career, your career will change your life

Anxiety and depression have become epidemics in our society.

Since the inception of Career Counseling Connecticut, we have realized that some part of both could be curtailed if people had happier work.

I recall a client from a few years ago who I  will call Jessica. She walked in for our career counseling session and apologized for being late (she was about a minute late); for being a mess (it was rainy); and for not printing out her resume (she had already e-mailed me her resume so there was no need).

Jessica described her job. Her boss was demanding and the layers of management above her boss were even worse. Many of her co-worker friends had been let go over the last five years. She was working harder than ever just to make sure she could keep her job. Jessica peeked at her phone. It was 6 pm but she noted that her boss would give her assignments at any time of day.  We started discussing the psychological impact of Jessica’s job. “I wasn’t always like this, I used to be pretty happy. Now, I’m on edge.”

A larger part of my career counseling work overlaps into “life counseling” than I would have thought a decade ago when I started this work. It makes sense. Work takes a lot of time. Time is life. The impact that one’s career has on one’s overall happiness is highly significant.

Jessica and I created a plan. It would likely take 3-6 months to execute the plan. But, much like a prisoner who is plotting an escape, Jessica felt hope. “This is the best I’ve felt in several years.” I said “you mean about work?”

“I mean about life.” she responded.

That seems to be the case with many of our clients. Help yourself.  Don’t let your career ruin your life.